jagmong CHARACTER : WHO CONTROLS YOURS?
Always try to hear your baby tales once in a
while
from your parents, and you’ll know how well
the
society has changed you because you
thought
societal behavior was normal. I grow up in a
city
where my attitude towards another is
controlled
by the other person’s attitude towards me.
This
goes on for different people like me, then I
wonder ; how emancipated am I really?
……….. I
need to be in charge of my character.
There’s a
particular quote I’ve heard for sometime
now and
it goes thus; “Do unto others as you want
others
to do unto you”. Well, apparently this means
that
we’re to live as a refection of what we
wanna see.
That is, stay positive with people, and they’ll
likely
do the same with you. Be respectful to
people,
and they’ll most likely be to you . However
it’s
nothing new that we’re living the quote
inversely,
because what I see now is that in the 21st
century, we do unto others as others have
done
unto us. Quite similar to reactive living.
Responding to the present based on our
information concerning the past, let’s just
call that
prejudice.
One thing has however caught my attention
which
is; over the years humans have fought for
emancipation and have waged so many
revolutions, thrown out bombs and wielded
guns.
We’ve evolved as we have believed, into the
higher intelligence, we’ve made crazy
breathe
taking technological advancement. Yet we’re
still
controlled by what we’ve experience, by our
past
relationship with people.
Character doesn’t change these days, it only
fluctuates pursuant to what we’re given. We
now
live like the computer we built, following the
GIGO
system. People now react nice and
accommodating to those who grant them
such,
and go otherwise to those who do the
otherwise.
Yet we fail to take cognizance of the human
capacity to create a new psychological flow
of
good character.
I believe we can create a new cycle of
harmonious
living, as each person has the ability to
change
the irrational cycle. Hence following the
quote, Do
unto others……, The onus is on each person
to do,
act, create a flow of expressing good
character
just as you’ll want others to act towards you.
You
should try to be the origin of want you
wanna see,
don’t be reaction of what others want to
see,
especially when what they want to see is the
inhumane part of you.
Our world, as it seems is becoming more
polarized than we could ever know. It’s
therefore
advisable to live with a open mind. Be the
one to
act, not react. Be the first to help, the first to
say
something inspiring, the first to smile or
even to
the trivial act of saying “good morning”. Do
that
to people and you’ll realize that you’re the
one in
control of your self even if people don’t
appreciate the effort (which most times
they’re
probably reacting to what they’ve
experience
earlier on), you’ll be glad that you acted
based on
freewill, freewill to be forgiving,
compassionate,
kind, creative etc. irrespective of what you’re
faced with.
Once we’re living and reacting based on
prejudicial experience, we are no better off
than
someone with a retrospective human
nature.
Now Keep this in mind, I got it from one of
my
favorite cartoons.. AVATAR, Legend of Korra
and
you can relate this quote to people living
with a
prejudicial nature and reactive nature
towards
others around them.
“When you base your expectations only on
what
you see, you blind yourself to the
possibilities of
new reality”
Thus, I urge everyone to base their
expectations
beyond what they’ve experienced in the
society.
Start living a new reality, see the world
differently,
act differently and little by little you’ll see that
people would act the same way you’ve acted
towards them.
Finally, most people would bring in the
theory of
social control, and claim that reaction is
merely
psychological. Well I’m just concerned to
know if
the theory of Social Behavior is enough
excuse to
override our willingness to act not out of
influence, but out of reason
Now imagine what the World will look like, if
you’ve acted wonderful to a lot of people?
By : Samuel